hey guys out there, give this site a try and get a kick. it's about your ability to take chances without getting caught. rate your wandering eye.
go ahead and enjoy!
Thursday, August 25, 2005
going for bust
hey guys out there, give this site a try and get a kick. it's about your ability to take chances without getting caught. rate your wandering eye.
go ahead and enjoy!
to begin with, we don't have any
[**original complete title of this should be:
thank God, we don't have any problems with love...
to begin with, we don't have any]
i think i countlessly enthused that i was, am and forever will be a joe d'mango copycat. i even try to sound just like him and pretend i am in a radio booth dispensing advice to countless faceless letter senders. hey, i even try to read much into his weekly sunday column in phil. daily inquirer.
maybe it's because i do admit i am a true blue LT, or lehitimong tsismoso, in real and reel [as if] life.
anyways, this was the statement shared by slacker and was asked of me to advice on:
"how can one ever continue being friends with somebody, when everytime you look at that person all you can think of is how much you want to be more than friends?"
ahhhh love, inlababo, in luhrv, pag-ibig, pagmamahal, libido, libog [ika nga ng guro ko nu'ng sekundarya, pagnanasang makalupa ng dalawang taong nagmamahalan...sus, seks lang naman pala in ader words].
l-o-v-e.
i guess continuance of friendship will depend on the depth of relationship they have as individuals. the length and breadth of it AND if the ties that bind is stronger than what could happen after one of the two said "i love you." then the frienship will even be strengthened. those 2 factors will be the crux of the matter.
it has always been easier had it been that the feelings were mutual, no problem at all. but if only one party is feeling the emotion and the other is stranger to it, then the more resentment will build up if after saying the 3 worded statement the person being told will say, "can we be just friends?"
ouch.
why? simply because as friends, then later as the friend falling in love, we at times place special contexts/connotations to acts which, had it been otherwise, are normal for friends. the kisses on the cheeks, the gift for your birthday, the hugs, the pasalubongs after a trip, the texts of sweet nothings, the silent moments for just the two of you after a heart-to-heart talk, the laughter in the rain, the stares you have for each other after a laughing fit.
all these would be "i thought" moments for you. since, of course, it is a given that you have always wondered if your feelings have been reciprocated even for just one moment. but the sad reality is that, being in love, puts our logic awry and we tend to analyse things for more than what it is actually.
as dang would say it, "dude, walang isyu."
the intensity of being in love makes us irrational in thinking that being snubbed was for a reason. then again, were we really snubbed?
more so with friends who have had shared histories of being together: physically and emotionally.
now this is the second crucial stage, how does the rejected party feel after being told such? now that will define how the relationship between them will prosper, if at all. say, it can take time before the rejected person will get over it. there is no hard and fast rule here. the rejecting person, on the other hand, may either be so solicitous, the rejected one would feel being sympathized on or worse, being patronized for being such a stupid person who's in love with a friend.
or, the rejecting person will be doing a cold treatment, as in dedma to death, about what has transpired.
me? i don't know which is worse, being there for the rejected friend or not at all. again, this will be based on the personality of the jilted person .
because with others, for example, kris aquino, would want to cry her heart out just to be so pathetic about it and move on. she would admit crying bucketful of tears over mushy love songs over and over till her lachrymal glands have dried up. although, having gone through lots of unrequited love, kris would be very knowledgeable already about this. she is now an expert for falling over and over with committed lovers.
how about, regine velasquez with her ariel rivera? she said, he broke up with her only over the phone...and what she did was hope for a tad bit but when she realized that he loved the other she more, she decided to immerse herself to work and just forget about it. working even with ariel himself in an extended tour in the states with the other she. of course it can't be helped that ariel had glances or look that he was so sorry for what happened. maybe for regine by not recognizing the hurt over and over, it would make her better off.
now what do you think?
thank God, we don't have any problems with love...
to begin with, we don't have any]
i think i countlessly enthused that i was, am and forever will be a joe d'mango copycat. i even try to sound just like him and pretend i am in a radio booth dispensing advice to countless faceless letter senders. hey, i even try to read much into his weekly sunday column in phil. daily inquirer.
maybe it's because i do admit i am a true blue LT, or lehitimong tsismoso, in real and reel [as if] life.
anyways, this was the statement shared by slacker and was asked of me to advice on:
"how can one ever continue being friends with somebody, when everytime you look at that person all you can think of is how much you want to be more than friends?"
ahhhh love, inlababo, in luhrv, pag-ibig, pagmamahal, libido, libog [ika nga ng guro ko nu'ng sekundarya, pagnanasang makalupa ng dalawang taong nagmamahalan...sus, seks lang naman pala in ader words].
l-o-v-e.
i guess continuance of friendship will depend on the depth of relationship they have as individuals. the length and breadth of it AND if the ties that bind is stronger than what could happen after one of the two said "i love you." then the frienship will even be strengthened. those 2 factors will be the crux of the matter.
it has always been easier had it been that the feelings were mutual, no problem at all. but if only one party is feeling the emotion and the other is stranger to it, then the more resentment will build up if after saying the 3 worded statement the person being told will say, "can we be just friends?"
ouch.
why? simply because as friends, then later as the friend falling in love, we at times place special contexts/connotations to acts which, had it been otherwise, are normal for friends. the kisses on the cheeks, the gift for your birthday, the hugs, the pasalubongs after a trip, the texts of sweet nothings, the silent moments for just the two of you after a heart-to-heart talk, the laughter in the rain, the stares you have for each other after a laughing fit.
all these would be "i thought" moments for you. since, of course, it is a given that you have always wondered if your feelings have been reciprocated even for just one moment. but the sad reality is that, being in love, puts our logic awry and we tend to analyse things for more than what it is actually.
as dang would say it, "dude, walang isyu."
the intensity of being in love makes us irrational in thinking that being snubbed was for a reason. then again, were we really snubbed?
more so with friends who have had shared histories of being together: physically and emotionally.
now this is the second crucial stage, how does the rejected party feel after being told such? now that will define how the relationship between them will prosper, if at all. say, it can take time before the rejected person will get over it. there is no hard and fast rule here. the rejecting person, on the other hand, may either be so solicitous, the rejected one would feel being sympathized on or worse, being patronized for being such a stupid person who's in love with a friend.
or, the rejecting person will be doing a cold treatment, as in dedma to death, about what has transpired.
me? i don't know which is worse, being there for the rejected friend or not at all. again, this will be based on the personality of the jilted person .
because with others, for example, kris aquino, would want to cry her heart out just to be so pathetic about it and move on. she would admit crying bucketful of tears over mushy love songs over and over till her lachrymal glands have dried up. although, having gone through lots of unrequited love, kris would be very knowledgeable already about this. she is now an expert for falling over and over with committed lovers.
how about, regine velasquez with her ariel rivera? she said, he broke up with her only over the phone...and what she did was hope for a tad bit but when she realized that he loved the other she more, she decided to immerse herself to work and just forget about it. working even with ariel himself in an extended tour in the states with the other she. of course it can't be helped that ariel had glances or look that he was so sorry for what happened. maybe for regine by not recognizing the hurt over and over, it would make her better off.
now what do you think?
Wednesday, August 24, 2005
book binge
i really don't know what it is with books that i am always enthralled by the beauty of prose or engaged into pushing all of them into the cashier counter for check-outs.
i always end up financially poorer but always lots of knowledge wealthier.
good thing there's always recto, cubao, booksale, grand central, and hey! even SM gave me a good load of mah fave, maeve binchy when i was sooo pissed off one fine afternoon. i ended up buying 2 hardbounds of hers, scarlet feather and tara road and one paperback by herman wuok, of war and remembrance.
now the availability of books in PDF makes me salivate, i am drooling.
books, books, books. my only vaunted vice in life [apart from singing and eating...they're exceptions. the former is a gift i need to share while the former is a physiological need i have to sustain...bwahahahaha].
maybe i used to be ptolemy or nebuchadnezzar or even beauty belle's beast in previous lifetimes.
p.s. next time, i may have enough time, while sipping strawb' n' cream Starbucks, to devote entries of how i intercoursed [???] with each author. with each act, satisfying for both, and gainfully stimulating enough, for rounds upon rounds of parchment cavorting.
i always end up financially poorer but always lots of knowledge wealthier.
good thing there's always recto, cubao, booksale, grand central, and hey! even SM gave me a good load of mah fave, maeve binchy when i was sooo pissed off one fine afternoon. i ended up buying 2 hardbounds of hers, scarlet feather and tara road and one paperback by herman wuok, of war and remembrance.
now the availability of books in PDF makes me salivate, i am drooling.
books, books, books. my only vaunted vice in life [apart from singing and eating...they're exceptions. the former is a gift i need to share while the former is a physiological need i have to sustain...bwahahahaha].
maybe i used to be ptolemy or nebuchadnezzar or even beauty belle's beast in previous lifetimes.
p.s. next time, i may have enough time, while sipping strawb' n' cream Starbucks, to devote entries of how i intercoursed [???] with each author. with each act, satisfying for both, and gainfully stimulating enough, for rounds upon rounds of parchment cavorting.
Tuesday, August 23, 2005
talasalitaan
i got this from Heinz's blogspot. he used to be my cool, cool editor for a lifestyle insert and was he the most awesome!!!
i always say this, there are editors who are sooo frustrated writers that they change lots of sentences, paragraphs in your copy that it ends up, it was they who wrote it.
ahehehehe...i should know. i came from one. not Heinz of course, the other one [**for the non-MGC initiated].
read this up, it's fun.
[**celine lopez would roll over laughing with this...as if we're close and she reads my blog]
Made up words
The Washington Post's Mensa Invitational once again asked readers to take any word from the dictionary, alter it by adding, subtracting, or changing one letter, and supply a new definition. Here are the 2005 winners:
1. Intaxication: Euphoria at getting a tax refund, which lasts until you realize it was your money to start with.
2. Reintarnation: Coming back to life as a hillbilly.
3. Bozone (n.): The substance surrounding stupid people that stops bright ideas from penetrating. The bozone layer, unfortunately, shows little sign of breaking down in the near future.
4. Foreploy: Any misrepresentation about yourself for the purpose of getting laid.
5. Cashtration (n.): The act of buying a house, which renders the subject financially impotent for an indefinite period.
6. Giraffiti: Vandalism spray-painted very, very high.
7. Sarchasm: The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it.
8. Inoculatte: To take coffee intravenously when you are running late.
9. Hipatitis: Terminal coolness.
10. Osteopornosis: A degenerate disease. (This one got extra credit.)
11. Karmageddon: It's like, when everybody is sending off all these really bad vibes, right? And then, like, the Earth explodes and it's like, a serious bummer.
12. Decafalon (n.): The grueling event of getting through the day consuming only things that are good for you.
13. Glibido: All talk and no action.
14. Dopeler effect: The tendency of stupid ideas to seem smarter when they come at you rapidly.
15. Arachnoleptic fit (n.): The frantic dance performed just after you've accidentally walked through a spider web.
16. Beelzebug (n.): Satan in the form of a mosquito, that gets into your bedroom at three in the morning and cannot be cast out.
17. Caterpallor (n.): The color you turn after finding half a worm in the fruit you're eating.
And the overall winner:
18. Ignoranus: A person who's both stupid and an asshole.
i always say this, there are editors who are sooo frustrated writers that they change lots of sentences, paragraphs in your copy that it ends up, it was they who wrote it.
ahehehehe...i should know. i came from one. not Heinz of course, the other one [**for the non-MGC initiated].
read this up, it's fun.
[**celine lopez would roll over laughing with this...as if we're close and she reads my blog]
Made up words
The Washington Post's Mensa Invitational once again asked readers to take any word from the dictionary, alter it by adding, subtracting, or changing one letter, and supply a new definition. Here are the 2005 winners:
1. Intaxication: Euphoria at getting a tax refund, which lasts until you realize it was your money to start with.
2. Reintarnation: Coming back to life as a hillbilly.
3. Bozone (n.): The substance surrounding stupid people that stops bright ideas from penetrating. The bozone layer, unfortunately, shows little sign of breaking down in the near future.
4. Foreploy: Any misrepresentation about yourself for the purpose of getting laid.
5. Cashtration (n.): The act of buying a house, which renders the subject financially impotent for an indefinite period.
6. Giraffiti: Vandalism spray-painted very, very high.
7. Sarchasm: The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it.
8. Inoculatte: To take coffee intravenously when you are running late.
9. Hipatitis: Terminal coolness.
10. Osteopornosis: A degenerate disease. (This one got extra credit.)
11. Karmageddon: It's like, when everybody is sending off all these really bad vibes, right? And then, like, the Earth explodes and it's like, a serious bummer.
12. Decafalon (n.): The grueling event of getting through the day consuming only things that are good for you.
13. Glibido: All talk and no action.
14. Dopeler effect: The tendency of stupid ideas to seem smarter when they come at you rapidly.
15. Arachnoleptic fit (n.): The frantic dance performed just after you've accidentally walked through a spider web.
16. Beelzebug (n.): Satan in the form of a mosquito, that gets into your bedroom at three in the morning and cannot be cast out.
17. Caterpallor (n.): The color you turn after finding half a worm in the fruit you're eating.
And the overall winner:
18. Ignoranus: A person who's both stupid and an asshole.
Friday, August 19, 2005
change, change, change
can you just believe this?
is this what they call a sign? when i was informed i had a message from this site, i immediately clicked on it to see what inspirational piece was sent me.
this is something.
i mean, my wavemates [who are soooooo dear to me, very] and i have been discussing, chatting, soliciting opinions about this topic for weeks/months now.
guys, take note of this:
The challenges, which can include stepping into unfamiliar territory, going back to school, or learning to live on less income, are very real
we can relate, damn right?
if this were not in any way divine nor providential, i don't know what is anymore.
Embarking On A New Path
Changing Careers
What we do for a living can be intimately intertwined with who we are. Often, people expect to grow and thrive in one career over a period of decades. For others, however, that expectation is unrealistic. As they themselves change, they become dissatisfied with the profession that once brought them joy. This is not unusual in modern times, where more and more people are changing careers not just once, but many times over the course of their lives. Because your career is a part of who you are, switching to another can be a long and involved process that requires courage and determination. The challenges, which can include stepping into unfamiliar territory, going back to school, or learning to live on less income, are very real, but the rewards can trump them. Changing careers, if done thoughtfully, can be one of the most richly satisfying and exciting experiences of your life.
If for years your soul has been telling you that you would make a skilled lawyer, a talented sculptor, or a brilliant electrical engineer, it's worth investigating the possibilities. Or, you may be desirous of a more soulful and fulfilling career but haven't figured out what it is yet. In either case, explore. If you have identified a passion, research it. Talk to people in that field and find out how they got there. Ask about the ups and the downs. If you're unsure of a career path you might like to pursue, look toward your passions, abilities, hobbies, and values. Determine what your ideal work hours, income, commute time, and working situation would be. If you love the idea of flexible hours or working from home, decide whether you would be willing to earn less as a trade off. Look for careers that offer the type of work environment and benefits you are looking for. Creating a new future takes time and effort, and a willingness to delve deep into the positives and negatives of a variety of careers.
Focus on your strengths, rather than skills you may be lacking. Seeking skill training or the help of a career counselor can be helpful. It's normal to be nervous when seeking out a new career, particularly if you are established in your current profession. But the payoff can be true satisfaction in finding work that you can love, and, it's never too late for change.
is this what they call a sign? when i was informed i had a message from this site, i immediately clicked on it to see what inspirational piece was sent me.
this is something.
i mean, my wavemates [who are soooooo dear to me, very] and i have been discussing, chatting, soliciting opinions about this topic for weeks/months now.
guys, take note of this:
The challenges, which can include stepping into unfamiliar territory, going back to school, or learning to live on less income, are very real
we can relate, damn right?
if this were not in any way divine nor providential, i don't know what is anymore.
Embarking On A New Path
Changing Careers
What we do for a living can be intimately intertwined with who we are. Often, people expect to grow and thrive in one career over a period of decades. For others, however, that expectation is unrealistic. As they themselves change, they become dissatisfied with the profession that once brought them joy. This is not unusual in modern times, where more and more people are changing careers not just once, but many times over the course of their lives. Because your career is a part of who you are, switching to another can be a long and involved process that requires courage and determination. The challenges, which can include stepping into unfamiliar territory, going back to school, or learning to live on less income, are very real, but the rewards can trump them. Changing careers, if done thoughtfully, can be one of the most richly satisfying and exciting experiences of your life.
If for years your soul has been telling you that you would make a skilled lawyer, a talented sculptor, or a brilliant electrical engineer, it's worth investigating the possibilities. Or, you may be desirous of a more soulful and fulfilling career but haven't figured out what it is yet. In either case, explore. If you have identified a passion, research it. Talk to people in that field and find out how they got there. Ask about the ups and the downs. If you're unsure of a career path you might like to pursue, look toward your passions, abilities, hobbies, and values. Determine what your ideal work hours, income, commute time, and working situation would be. If you love the idea of flexible hours or working from home, decide whether you would be willing to earn less as a trade off. Look for careers that offer the type of work environment and benefits you are looking for. Creating a new future takes time and effort, and a willingness to delve deep into the positives and negatives of a variety of careers.
Focus on your strengths, rather than skills you may be lacking. Seeking skill training or the help of a career counselor can be helpful. It's normal to be nervous when seeking out a new career, particularly if you are established in your current profession. But the payoff can be true satisfaction in finding work that you can love, and, it's never too late for change.
asia's songbird
how else will one want to title this entry?
i never know when i will get over my adolescent infatuation and deepest admiration for this chanteuse.
perhaps, she has exemplified that true talent doesn't stop being talented. they work hard and long hours to get to their stations in life right now. nothing, not even with someone showered with immense gifts, is easy in life.
as they say, if we face hardships and adversities, be thankful. it only means we are in the track of preparing ourselves to become the better us.
haaaaaaaaaaaaay, regina encarnacion ansong velasquez. muy ultima diva para mi.
i never know when i will get over my adolescent infatuation and deepest admiration for this chanteuse.
perhaps, she has exemplified that true talent doesn't stop being talented. they work hard and long hours to get to their stations in life right now. nothing, not even with someone showered with immense gifts, is easy in life.
as they say, if we face hardships and adversities, be thankful. it only means we are in the track of preparing ourselves to become the better us.
haaaaaaaaaaaaay, regina encarnacion ansong velasquez. muy ultima diva para mi.
un momento en mi vida
this may the best and closest expression of how i am feeling right now. without giving too much away [although 4 closest peeps would already know the details] i think i have gotten grip already of how am faring right now. i had ambivalent emotions to be truthful, i may just have been overwhelmed still of everything that was put on the table. i also am very much aware of the awesome responsibility as well. there was an instance, believe you me, that i would have wanted to call the person back and say, "hey wait, i think i changed my mind."
but i guess, there really are decisions, and there are hard decisions we must face up to eventually. much as i would have wanted to stay in my comfort zone, there really are moments we have to seize and claim, "this is mine."
apart from owning up to the truth that in my case, there is a larger reason for everything. i am not thinking solely of my own future here. this decision is definitely bigger than i am [just imagine that, bigger than me...] and even if it does scare me out of my wits, being given this tremendous responsibility has to be looked at as blessings. to be asked by a greater Power that i have to be somebody and carry on for my family must be looked at as the greatest opportunity to be the best in the eyes of the Lord, to be an inspiration for others, to repay even in my littlest way [for one can NEVER ever repay even half of ] the love my daddy, mama, kuya and kid sister ling-ling has outpoured on me.
this day, this moment is theirs. it will never be mine.
This is the Moment
This is the moment!
This is the day,
When I send all my doubts and demons
On their way!
Every endeavor,
I have made - ever -
Is coming into play,
Is here and now - today!
This is the moment,
This is the time,
When the momentum and the moment
Are in rhyme!
Give me this moment -
This precious chance -
I'll gather up my past
And make some sense at last!
This is the moment,
When all I've done -
All the dreaming,
Scheming and screaming,
Become one!
This is the day -
See it sparkle and shine,
When all I've lived for
Becomes mine!
For all these years,
I've faced the world alone,
And now the time has come
To prove to them
I've made it on my own!
This is the moment -
My final test -
Destiny beckoned,
I never reckoned,
Second Best!
I won't look down,
I must not fall!
This is the moment,
The sweetest moment of them all!
This is the moment!
Damn all the odds!
This day, or never,
I'll sit forever
With the gods!
When I look back,
I will always recall,
Moment for moment,
This was the moment,
The greatest moment
Of them all!
but i guess, there really are decisions, and there are hard decisions we must face up to eventually. much as i would have wanted to stay in my comfort zone, there really are moments we have to seize and claim, "this is mine."
apart from owning up to the truth that in my case, there is a larger reason for everything. i am not thinking solely of my own future here. this decision is definitely bigger than i am [just imagine that, bigger than me...] and even if it does scare me out of my wits, being given this tremendous responsibility has to be looked at as blessings. to be asked by a greater Power that i have to be somebody and carry on for my family must be looked at as the greatest opportunity to be the best in the eyes of the Lord, to be an inspiration for others, to repay even in my littlest way [for one can NEVER ever repay even half of ] the love my daddy, mama, kuya and kid sister ling-ling has outpoured on me.
this day, this moment is theirs. it will never be mine.
This is the Moment
This is the moment!
This is the day,
When I send all my doubts and demons
On their way!
Every endeavor,
I have made - ever -
Is coming into play,
Is here and now - today!
This is the moment,
This is the time,
When the momentum and the moment
Are in rhyme!
Give me this moment -
This precious chance -
I'll gather up my past
And make some sense at last!
This is the moment,
When all I've done -
All the dreaming,
Scheming and screaming,
Become one!
This is the day -
See it sparkle and shine,
When all I've lived for
Becomes mine!
For all these years,
I've faced the world alone,
And now the time has come
To prove to them
I've made it on my own!
This is the moment -
My final test -
Destiny beckoned,
I never reckoned,
Second Best!
I won't look down,
I must not fall!
This is the moment,
The sweetest moment of them all!
This is the moment!
Damn all the odds!
This day, or never,
I'll sit forever
With the gods!
When I look back,
I will always recall,
Moment for moment,
This was the moment,
The greatest moment
Of them all!
Thursday, August 18, 2005
being confrontational
having had several moments of confronting people i love, i used to love, i hate, i used to hate...yeah, definitely, i am one confrontational person. i noticed that i vary the way i confront people with their issues with me, my issues with them, our issues altogether.
most likely, it would be a one-on-one personal encounter, although there was one just recently which happened in between gasps.........of a computer keyboard [read: chatting].
i agree with what was said here [as usual]. i guess, it would really be dependent on the people involved. i do select, but of course, the people i confront issues with. most likely, it's either i really am damn close to the person OR i do feel i need to make an exception in his/her case. i believe that whatever gifts we have, we can share [it's not obligatory]. it just so happened that if i felt bothered by it, then it must be that necessary for that person to hear what i have to say.
highlights would be:
It can be easier to overlook a problem than to confront the individual behind it.
...confrontation, when handled in a calm and timely fashion, can be an act of caring.
Being Frank
Constructive Confrontation
Pointing out a fault or misstep in someone is often uncomfortable, draining, or stressful. It can be easier to overlook a problem than to confront the individual behind it. But just as everything in the universe has a positive and negative side, confrontation can be beneficial when handled one way or detrimental when handled in another way. If you accept that there is no winner or loser in a confrontation, and that it is merely a step in reaching a constructive solution, you can harness confrontation as a means of inspiring positive change. Sometimes the only way to show a person how they are doing you or themselves harm is to candidly express the consequences of their actions. In fact, confrontation, when handled in a calm and timely fashion, can be an act of caring.
If you find you shy away from confrontation, seeing it as an opportunity to help someone else may make it more bearable. To be willing to confront someone demonstrates your desire to maintain an open discourse with them, even if they don't initially see it as such. Naturally, in confronting someone, because you are openly discussing negative aspects of their behavior, you run the risk of offending them. But there are steps you can take to remove the sting from a confrontation. Remember that confrontation is nothing more than an opportunity for frank communication. Prepare beforehand by compiling a mental list of the facts surrounding the issue behind the confrontation. You may want to rehearse your opening statement to yourself, if it will make you feel more at ease. Finally, after discussing the behavior you are unhappy with in clear terms, give the other person a chance to respond without interrupting.
Maintaining a calm demeanor can turn a confrontation into a constructive conversation. Positive confrontation can be a learning experience for both parties, because it involves openly and bravely facing an issue. When most effective, both parties will come away from a confrontation feeling satisfied that they can move forward, changed for the better.
most likely, it would be a one-on-one personal encounter, although there was one just recently which happened in between gasps.........of a computer keyboard [read: chatting].
i agree with what was said here [as usual]. i guess, it would really be dependent on the people involved. i do select, but of course, the people i confront issues with. most likely, it's either i really am damn close to the person OR i do feel i need to make an exception in his/her case. i believe that whatever gifts we have, we can share [it's not obligatory]. it just so happened that if i felt bothered by it, then it must be that necessary for that person to hear what i have to say.
highlights would be:
It can be easier to overlook a problem than to confront the individual behind it.
...confrontation, when handled in a calm and timely fashion, can be an act of caring.
Being Frank
Constructive Confrontation
Pointing out a fault or misstep in someone is often uncomfortable, draining, or stressful. It can be easier to overlook a problem than to confront the individual behind it. But just as everything in the universe has a positive and negative side, confrontation can be beneficial when handled one way or detrimental when handled in another way. If you accept that there is no winner or loser in a confrontation, and that it is merely a step in reaching a constructive solution, you can harness confrontation as a means of inspiring positive change. Sometimes the only way to show a person how they are doing you or themselves harm is to candidly express the consequences of their actions. In fact, confrontation, when handled in a calm and timely fashion, can be an act of caring.
If you find you shy away from confrontation, seeing it as an opportunity to help someone else may make it more bearable. To be willing to confront someone demonstrates your desire to maintain an open discourse with them, even if they don't initially see it as such. Naturally, in confronting someone, because you are openly discussing negative aspects of their behavior, you run the risk of offending them. But there are steps you can take to remove the sting from a confrontation. Remember that confrontation is nothing more than an opportunity for frank communication. Prepare beforehand by compiling a mental list of the facts surrounding the issue behind the confrontation. You may want to rehearse your opening statement to yourself, if it will make you feel more at ease. Finally, after discussing the behavior you are unhappy with in clear terms, give the other person a chance to respond without interrupting.
Maintaining a calm demeanor can turn a confrontation into a constructive conversation. Positive confrontation can be a learning experience for both parties, because it involves openly and bravely facing an issue. When most effective, both parties will come away from a confrontation feeling satisfied that they can move forward, changed for the better.
Monday, August 15, 2005
mah worth is gold
again this inspiring article about loving ourselves as we are, chaff and grain.
highlights would be:
Everyone has worth, but the source of that worth is individual.
Learning to stop comparing yourself to others begins with accepting your worth, because your own acceptance is the most important.
sometimes, truths or denials are easier accepted when it would be others whose situations these would be found. but if it is within us, many find it hard. is it because it is closer to home? there would really be moments that we either would just be transfixed with some thoughts, taking it in. neither confirming nor denying such existing and realized fact.
it was and never will be wrong for us to take pride in ourselves. aretha f. would even freakin' belt that it is deeper love. i think, most Filipinos were brought up not to be boastin' greatness, yes, i agree that is best. but somehow, in tempering such self-love, we have greatly reduced our reflex to beam beside our accomplishments.
that is why a lot of us would want to look beyond our shoulders, beyond our gates and even spend beyond our means. for we never clearly assessed and appreciated that we have GIFTS that others would pay blood just to have even a half of it. for me, i have been blessed with a great childhood and the best family.
there was a time that i overlooked that fact. exposed to classmates who have all materially [not that i was deprived of it. there really would be somebody richer than we are], i thought, i never had enough clothes, enough allowance, enough vacation places, enough cars. but i did have my comeuppance [definition: just desserts].
as i was telling dang d' SPOC, [20:53] giocvg: yan n nga lang talaga yata ang magiging yaman nating totoo [our families would be the only riches we can claim truly ours].
Focusing On The Best You
Comparing Yourself To Others
Each of us has been blessed with unique qualities. No one else has lived through precisely the same circumstances, possesses exactly the same qualities, or thinks just the same thoughts. We love, appreciate, and hold dear vastly different things. Because of this, it is nearly impossible to justly compare oneself to others and yet so many people stake their happiness on how they fare when measured against a neighbor, a coworker, a sibling, or Hollywood star. It is easy to think that if you had her eyes, his house, her job, or his money, that you'd be truly happy. Your value as a person has little to do with what you look like or what you possess and comparing yourself to someone else denies your own wonderful gifts and talents. Everyone has worth, but the source of that worth is individual. Learning to stop comparing yourself to others begins with accepting your worth, because your own acceptance is the most important.
Regularly assessing your worth in terms of other people's gifts, be they talent, money, looks, or material wealth, can lead to dissatisfaction, even when you're on top of your game. It's important to remember that you are you and will always be you, not someone else. Your individuality is something to take pride in. When you get the urge to compare yourself to someone else, meditate on the fact that you are lovable, capable, and special the way you are. Instead of focusing on traits you don't possess, and others do, or vice versa, concentrate on what you yourself have. You may be a great painter, very funny, or physically fit. Or you may be exceptionally organized, a capable parent, or profoundly patient. Usually, when we compare ourselves to others, we come out feeling devalued. In noting the positive differences both in yourself and the other party, you appreciate and foster distinctiveness.
The gifts which you have been given can be used for the benefit of everyone you come into contact with. Realizing and embracing such a concept enables you to focus on bringing out the best in yourself, so that you can celebrate your own achievements as well as those of others.
highlights would be:
Everyone has worth, but the source of that worth is individual.
Learning to stop comparing yourself to others begins with accepting your worth, because your own acceptance is the most important.
sometimes, truths or denials are easier accepted when it would be others whose situations these would be found. but if it is within us, many find it hard. is it because it is closer to home? there would really be moments that we either would just be transfixed with some thoughts, taking it in. neither confirming nor denying such existing and realized fact.
it was and never will be wrong for us to take pride in ourselves. aretha f. would even freakin' belt that it is deeper love. i think, most Filipinos were brought up not to be boastin' greatness, yes, i agree that is best. but somehow, in tempering such self-love, we have greatly reduced our reflex to beam beside our accomplishments.
that is why a lot of us would want to look beyond our shoulders, beyond our gates and even spend beyond our means. for we never clearly assessed and appreciated that we have GIFTS that others would pay blood just to have even a half of it. for me, i have been blessed with a great childhood and the best family.
there was a time that i overlooked that fact. exposed to classmates who have all materially [not that i was deprived of it. there really would be somebody richer than we are], i thought, i never had enough clothes, enough allowance, enough vacation places, enough cars. but i did have my comeuppance [definition: just desserts].
as i was telling dang d' SPOC, [20:53] giocvg: yan n nga lang talaga yata ang magiging yaman nating totoo [our families would be the only riches we can claim truly ours].
Focusing On The Best You
Comparing Yourself To Others
Each of us has been blessed with unique qualities. No one else has lived through precisely the same circumstances, possesses exactly the same qualities, or thinks just the same thoughts. We love, appreciate, and hold dear vastly different things. Because of this, it is nearly impossible to justly compare oneself to others and yet so many people stake their happiness on how they fare when measured against a neighbor, a coworker, a sibling, or Hollywood star. It is easy to think that if you had her eyes, his house, her job, or his money, that you'd be truly happy. Your value as a person has little to do with what you look like or what you possess and comparing yourself to someone else denies your own wonderful gifts and talents. Everyone has worth, but the source of that worth is individual. Learning to stop comparing yourself to others begins with accepting your worth, because your own acceptance is the most important.
Regularly assessing your worth in terms of other people's gifts, be they talent, money, looks, or material wealth, can lead to dissatisfaction, even when you're on top of your game. It's important to remember that you are you and will always be you, not someone else. Your individuality is something to take pride in. When you get the urge to compare yourself to someone else, meditate on the fact that you are lovable, capable, and special the way you are. Instead of focusing on traits you don't possess, and others do, or vice versa, concentrate on what you yourself have. You may be a great painter, very funny, or physically fit. Or you may be exceptionally organized, a capable parent, or profoundly patient. Usually, when we compare ourselves to others, we come out feeling devalued. In noting the positive differences both in yourself and the other party, you appreciate and foster distinctiveness.
The gifts which you have been given can be used for the benefit of everyone you come into contact with. Realizing and embracing such a concept enables you to focus on bringing out the best in yourself, so that you can celebrate your own achievements as well as those of others.
blog hopping
i was clicking on Next Blog found on the top right hand portion of every blog screen and i was amused and bemused [definition: to be engrossed in thought] by this entry by a male nurse in massachusetts for his digital doorway blogspot.
So for my forties, I will relinquish martyrdom and the "shoulds" which continue to plague me. I will embrace my adultness and retain my youth. I will examine myself closely, change that which cries out for change, and develop that which calls for growth and expansion. I will be good to my body, rest well, and keep my mind active and engaged. I will seek to foster my own creativity, and use that creativity in a way which engenders further self-exploration. I will honor my own needs in relationships, nurture current relationships well, and develop new ones only when they feel right, not because I feel that I should. I will also begin to let go of those relationships which no longer serve, a process which can be painful and difficult.
i guess, some things, long held beliefs, will go on changing as we grow older. this person cited a lot in his blog about his perceptions when he was still younger and how they were now realized to be unfounded, or should we say, inapplicable. but for me, it really is supposed to be that way. all our perceptions, feelings, sentiments, dramas, prejudices, loves, hates in life in a particular time are all valid. they should never question that. we, ourselves, may question those but not other people. for all those abstract nouns served their purpose for that time.
as slacker would have it, fear not death, only unlived life.
So for my forties, I will relinquish martyrdom and the "shoulds" which continue to plague me. I will embrace my adultness and retain my youth. I will examine myself closely, change that which cries out for change, and develop that which calls for growth and expansion. I will be good to my body, rest well, and keep my mind active and engaged. I will seek to foster my own creativity, and use that creativity in a way which engenders further self-exploration. I will honor my own needs in relationships, nurture current relationships well, and develop new ones only when they feel right, not because I feel that I should. I will also begin to let go of those relationships which no longer serve, a process which can be painful and difficult.
i guess, some things, long held beliefs, will go on changing as we grow older. this person cited a lot in his blog about his perceptions when he was still younger and how they were now realized to be unfounded, or should we say, inapplicable. but for me, it really is supposed to be that way. all our perceptions, feelings, sentiments, dramas, prejudices, loves, hates in life in a particular time are all valid. they should never question that. we, ourselves, may question those but not other people. for all those abstract nouns served their purpose for that time.
as slacker would have it, fear not death, only unlived life.
Saturday, August 13, 2005
i am one of the "6 in 1,000"
having had wondered what my IQ level was like, i again submitted myself to the torture of taking the tickle test for IQ. this is their claim:
Welcome to Tickle's Super IQ Test — the most accurate, comprehensive, and thorough intelligence assessment of its kind and an in-depth version of our famous Classic IQ Test. Previously offered only to corporations, schools, and certified professionals -this highly accurate intelligence assessment test is now available to you directly from Tickle.
In addition to measuring your IQ, the Super IQ Test also assesses how well you score in 8 different areas of intelligence to uncover your key intellectual strengths and what they reveal about you.
Developed by PhDs, our exclusive Super IQ test is free, private, and reflects the best research available.
this is my results:
Your overall intelligence quotient is the result of a scientifically-tested formula based on how many questions you answered correctly. But it's only part of what we learned about you from your answers on the test. We also determined the way you process information.
The way you think about things makes you a Creative Theorist. This means you are a highly intelligent, complex person. You are able to process information of nearly every kind with ease, using both creativity and analysis to make sense of the world. Compared to others you also have a very rich imagination.
How did we determine that your thinking style is that of a Creative Theorist? When we examined your test results further, we analyzed how you scored on 8 dimensions of intelligence: spatial, organizational, abstract reasoning, logical, mechanical, verbal, visual and numerical. The 3 dimensions you scored highest on combine to make you a Creative Theorist. Only 6 out of 1,000 people have this rare combination of abilities.
goodness. mah goodness. my time spent cavorting our guidance counsellor has again PAID OFF handsomely [**how i wish this were in any half-way true].
just the same, it was nice knowing how i fared off. naks, something i will tell lingling, mah beloved sister, about her kuya.
p.s. i wonder if i'd buy the comprehensive results about this...for all we know, they're giving this results to almost everybody...hehehe, hi tickle! ;p
Welcome to Tickle's Super IQ Test — the most accurate, comprehensive, and thorough intelligence assessment of its kind and an in-depth version of our famous Classic IQ Test. Previously offered only to corporations, schools, and certified professionals -this highly accurate intelligence assessment test is now available to you directly from Tickle.
In addition to measuring your IQ, the Super IQ Test also assesses how well you score in 8 different areas of intelligence to uncover your key intellectual strengths and what they reveal about you.
Developed by PhDs, our exclusive Super IQ test is free, private, and reflects the best research available.
this is my results:
Your overall intelligence quotient is the result of a scientifically-tested formula based on how many questions you answered correctly. But it's only part of what we learned about you from your answers on the test. We also determined the way you process information.
The way you think about things makes you a Creative Theorist. This means you are a highly intelligent, complex person. You are able to process information of nearly every kind with ease, using both creativity and analysis to make sense of the world. Compared to others you also have a very rich imagination.
How did we determine that your thinking style is that of a Creative Theorist? When we examined your test results further, we analyzed how you scored on 8 dimensions of intelligence: spatial, organizational, abstract reasoning, logical, mechanical, verbal, visual and numerical. The 3 dimensions you scored highest on combine to make you a Creative Theorist. Only 6 out of 1,000 people have this rare combination of abilities.
goodness. mah goodness. my time spent cavorting our guidance counsellor has again PAID OFF handsomely [**how i wish this were in any half-way true].
just the same, it was nice knowing how i fared off. naks, something i will tell lingling, mah beloved sister, about her kuya.
p.s. i wonder if i'd buy the comprehensive results about this...for all we know, they're giving this results to almost everybody...hehehe, hi tickle! ;p
Friday, August 12, 2005
que horror
aren't we silly when we watch horror films and scream our lungs out like there's no tomorrow? i'd admit that for horror genre i always make an exception to my rule of watching in cinema houses. you see, weird that i am, i don't watch blockbusters in moviehouses. i'd rather wait for a good pirated DVD of the film and watch at home. why bother with the fare, the tickets, the food etc when you can enjoy it just the same [or at most times, enjoy it more] at the privacy of your own house?
but with horror films [and some sci-fi's] i make an exception. it never beats the fun of screaming over and over for something that you'd half-expect from those films.
somebody sent me this horror site, yours for the picking.
be safe...bwahahahahahaha [imagine count dracula for this]
p.s. when you visit the site, be sure your lights are off and you're all alone...the monitor's glow is more than enough.
Thursday, August 11, 2005
the art of listening
in most times i guess, we only hear what our family, our friend, the environment is telling us. worse we only even just hear ourselves and even God. but have you once asked yourself if you really listened? again this article below illustrates that we must listen. not only with what was spoken, but more on what wasn't...
this captures its entirety: Sometimes, being a good listener means listening to the silence in between words.
words is cheap.
Listening With An Open Heart
Being A Good Listener
Everyone appreciates a good listener. We all know how wonderful it is to be able to have someone to share our life with, whether it is the joys and frustrations of being a new parent, the excitement of a new career, the heartache of a lost love, or simple chitchat. At times, we all want and need to be heard. It is equally important then that we develop the skills to lend a helping ear to others.
Being a good listener means being an active listener by being fully present when someone is talking to you. Making eye contact when someone is speaking helps to connect us to one another. It also keeps us focused on what is being saying, rather than what we are thinking. We need to not only hear words, but also to read body language and understand feelings. It goes without saying that we shouldn't interrupt someone when they are talking, or to judge and criticize, but often we fall into such habits without being conscious of them. By being fully present when someone is speaking we are better able to simply listen and give advice only if we are asked.
We don't have to agree with everything or anything that is being said, but listening with an open mind is respectful to the speaker and it allows us to understand the other person and ourselves better. By letting go of assumptions and hearing what is being said, as well as the tone of voice the speaker is using, we can better understand our differences and perhaps find some similarities.
Reflect back to the speaker that you understand and empathize with their feelings of happiness, anxiety, and/or sadness. Ask questions if you don't understand, but respect boundaries if the speaker seems uncomfortable. Sometimes, being a good listener means listening to the silence in between words. Being a good listener is easy - simply listen with your ears, as well as your heart.
this captures its entirety: Sometimes, being a good listener means listening to the silence in between words.
words is cheap.
Listening With An Open Heart
Being A Good Listener
Everyone appreciates a good listener. We all know how wonderful it is to be able to have someone to share our life with, whether it is the joys and frustrations of being a new parent, the excitement of a new career, the heartache of a lost love, or simple chitchat. At times, we all want and need to be heard. It is equally important then that we develop the skills to lend a helping ear to others.
Being a good listener means being an active listener by being fully present when someone is talking to you. Making eye contact when someone is speaking helps to connect us to one another. It also keeps us focused on what is being saying, rather than what we are thinking. We need to not only hear words, but also to read body language and understand feelings. It goes without saying that we shouldn't interrupt someone when they are talking, or to judge and criticize, but often we fall into such habits without being conscious of them. By being fully present when someone is speaking we are better able to simply listen and give advice only if we are asked.
We don't have to agree with everything or anything that is being said, but listening with an open mind is respectful to the speaker and it allows us to understand the other person and ourselves better. By letting go of assumptions and hearing what is being said, as well as the tone of voice the speaker is using, we can better understand our differences and perhaps find some similarities.
Reflect back to the speaker that you understand and empathize with their feelings of happiness, anxiety, and/or sadness. Ask questions if you don't understand, but respect boundaries if the speaker seems uncomfortable. Sometimes, being a good listener means listening to the silence in between words. Being a good listener is easy - simply listen with your ears, as well as your heart.
what kind of "something" are you?
took lots of tests in the tickle site and had all these results for your reading pleasure. some are definitive of who i am and some aren't [zeus as a sex god?]. but it's fun and entertaining [imagine lenny kravitz, **drool]. i don't know, i'm pretty much used to taking exams and personality tests that even before high school i already have configured a way of having mah way in achieving the results i wanted. i do remember that i was given a method by mah grade school guidance counsellor on checking the exams. but of course, i won't tell how. TRADE SECRET. ahehehehe.
i suppose there really is "something" in each of us. for those who are at a loss, these tests will help you in finding that something lost someplace somehow. but for many? nah, i think taking these tests will prove once again, that in all of us, we kinda figured out already how to get the personality results some are cracking their heads figuring out how.
here are my results:
who is my movie star double?
Gio, your movie star double is Benjamin Bratt
A magnetic man like you needs to be played by someone who knows how to get an audience's attention — and keep it. That's why Benjamin Bratt would be a great leading man in the movie of your life. Underneath your sometimes quieter demeanor, there's an undeniable attraction that draws people to you, your thoughts, and your ideals. There's just something about you that has people screaming for more. But that's a good thing since you probably thrive when you're being social, promoting your causes and getting out and about to see the world.
You've just got that celebrity quality that makes people applaud, whatever you do. Even if you don't match Benjamin's lady-melting looks, his mega-star glow will help translate your charisma to the silver screen.
what breed of dog are you?
Gio, you're a Irish Setter!
what cinderella story am i?
Gio, in your Cinderella story, you'd get to Live Happily Ever After
When it comes to setting goals, you're not afraid to reach high. How else would you explain wanting to be the belle of the ball, winning the heart of the prince, showing those evil stepsisters who's boss, and ruling the kingdom? You're a girl with goals, and you go after them.
Let's face it: You're not one to sit around and wait for life to happen. If the driver has the night off, you'd probably proudly take the reigns of your pumpkin coach and drive yourself to the party. You're not the type to have a team of servants at your beck and call although that wouldn't be so horrible, now would it? But if good ol' Prince Charming has anything to say about it, you won't have to lift a finger when you move into the castle together — unless you want to. And with your varied interests and natural drive to get what you want, you're sure to be true royalty in no time. And that's a happily ever after worth sharing.
what music star am i?
Gio, your music match is an Edgy Rock 'n' Roller
You don't need to be able to rock out on a guitar to have something in common with your musical match. Like bold rocker Lenny Kravitz, you've got a feisty and independent spirit that lets you march to the beat of your own drummer. And it's certainly no secret that you like to speak up and say what's on your mind.
Whether you're hanging at the skate park, playing games, or checking out the big game, you manage to bring a spicy flavor that's all your own. Maybe you've got your own funky flair for fashion. Perhaps your interests and ambition set you apart. Whatever it is, you're a trendsetter who's sure to make waves on your way to the top. You won't need to ask, "Are you gonna go my way?" Everyone will!
what movie am i?
Gio, if you were a movie, you'd be a Groundbreaking Documentary
If you think documentaries are boring, think again. Like your movie match, you're an intelligent individual who makes people think. Documentaries span all sorts of topics, from the trivial to the profound. Perhaps your interests do the same, but one thing's clear — you're a smarty and you like to learn.
We'd guess you're the person at the dinner table or the water cooler who stirs up lively debates about the latest news or tidbits from the Discovery Channel. Part of you probably gets a kick out of creating controversy and getting people fired up about their beliefs. Another part probably likes opening people's eyes and sharing your thoughts. And for that, you get two thumbs up for trying to get to the bottom of things and making waves!
what celebrity smile am i?
Gio, your celebrity smile style is Mischievous Like Angelina
Angelina may be best known for her bee-stung lips, but it's her sly, sexy smile that we can't take our eyes off of. Like Angelina, you've been known to have a wilder side, and your playful ways always keep 'em guessing.
Whether you are trying to seduce a flame, tell an intriguing story, or convince a boardroom, you tend to keep your cards close to your chest. You prefer to maintain control of most situations, and keeping an air of mystery around you is the best way to do it. Don't worry, we won't tell.
who’s my celebrity soulmate?
Gio, your celebrity soul mate is someone who's Sizzling
Even if you're not Hollywood's hottest star (yet), we can tell you've got the potential to turn heads nonetheless. Whether you're in the spotlight or helping out behind the scenes, it's clear that you've got an understated allure underneath that sometimes-quiet exterior.
So who's right to play the part of your leading co-star? Only a hot ticket with sex appeal and sultry style to spare can keep up with a rising star like you. A stunner like Charlize Theron has the brains, beauty, and talent to be your match. From awards shows to dinner dates at swanky hot spots, you'll be the latest "It" couple to add sizzle to Tinseltown. Just tell your agent you're looking for someone sizzling to co-star in your love life, and you'll be sure to find them. And that's a wrap.
who am I as an american idol?
Gio, you're a Wild Card
On stage or off, people never seem to know what you'll do next. And that's the way you like it. A fan of surprises, spontaneity, and individuality, your free spirit helps keep things interesting and others guessing.
Whether you're making your own dance moves or creating a groundbreaking new look, it's clear that none of the judges will be able to pin down your impulsive energy and enthusiasm. And your style and spirit is sure to rub off on other people - especially once you're in the limelight. So keep marching to the beat of your own drummer — others are sure to follow.
who am i as a sex god?
Hark - the oracle speaks! A bolt of lightning falls from the sky! SHAZAAM! As the smoke clears, the hidden deity in you emerges and is revealed to be:
ZEUS, God of Thunder.
Like a ten-megaton bomb, you drop from the sky and into the arms of your lovers. Seduction is not just a simple game for you, it's a way of life. With your handsome looks and masculine charms, you wow the ladies until all resistance has worn away. As ruler of the gods, you like to remain in control of your relationships. From casual discussions to techniques in the bedroom, you like to call the shots. You may have many admirers, but you might tend to fall a little short on some virtues -- such as fidelity. Your mind wanders at the slightest provocation. You have been known to have several women on your mind (and in your bed) at once. But, hey, with such powerful feelings thundering inside, you need to spread your love around, right? What's certain is that once you get busy, your godly nature starts working overtime. As you perform your magic, that special someone will know exactly why they call you a true sex god.
i suppose there really is "something" in each of us. for those who are at a loss, these tests will help you in finding that something lost someplace somehow. but for many? nah, i think taking these tests will prove once again, that in all of us, we kinda figured out already how to get the personality results some are cracking their heads figuring out how.
here are my results:
who is my movie star double?
Gio, your movie star double is Benjamin Bratt
A magnetic man like you needs to be played by someone who knows how to get an audience's attention — and keep it. That's why Benjamin Bratt would be a great leading man in the movie of your life. Underneath your sometimes quieter demeanor, there's an undeniable attraction that draws people to you, your thoughts, and your ideals. There's just something about you that has people screaming for more. But that's a good thing since you probably thrive when you're being social, promoting your causes and getting out and about to see the world.
You've just got that celebrity quality that makes people applaud, whatever you do. Even if you don't match Benjamin's lady-melting looks, his mega-star glow will help translate your charisma to the silver screen.
what breed of dog are you?
Gio, you're a Irish Setter!
what cinderella story am i?
Gio, in your Cinderella story, you'd get to Live Happily Ever After
When it comes to setting goals, you're not afraid to reach high. How else would you explain wanting to be the belle of the ball, winning the heart of the prince, showing those evil stepsisters who's boss, and ruling the kingdom? You're a girl with goals, and you go after them.
Let's face it: You're not one to sit around and wait for life to happen. If the driver has the night off, you'd probably proudly take the reigns of your pumpkin coach and drive yourself to the party. You're not the type to have a team of servants at your beck and call although that wouldn't be so horrible, now would it? But if good ol' Prince Charming has anything to say about it, you won't have to lift a finger when you move into the castle together — unless you want to. And with your varied interests and natural drive to get what you want, you're sure to be true royalty in no time. And that's a happily ever after worth sharing.
what music star am i?
Gio, your music match is an Edgy Rock 'n' Roller
You don't need to be able to rock out on a guitar to have something in common with your musical match. Like bold rocker Lenny Kravitz, you've got a feisty and independent spirit that lets you march to the beat of your own drummer. And it's certainly no secret that you like to speak up and say what's on your mind.
Whether you're hanging at the skate park, playing games, or checking out the big game, you manage to bring a spicy flavor that's all your own. Maybe you've got your own funky flair for fashion. Perhaps your interests and ambition set you apart. Whatever it is, you're a trendsetter who's sure to make waves on your way to the top. You won't need to ask, "Are you gonna go my way?" Everyone will!
what movie am i?
Gio, if you were a movie, you'd be a Groundbreaking Documentary
If you think documentaries are boring, think again. Like your movie match, you're an intelligent individual who makes people think. Documentaries span all sorts of topics, from the trivial to the profound. Perhaps your interests do the same, but one thing's clear — you're a smarty and you like to learn.
We'd guess you're the person at the dinner table or the water cooler who stirs up lively debates about the latest news or tidbits from the Discovery Channel. Part of you probably gets a kick out of creating controversy and getting people fired up about their beliefs. Another part probably likes opening people's eyes and sharing your thoughts. And for that, you get two thumbs up for trying to get to the bottom of things and making waves!
what celebrity smile am i?
Gio, your celebrity smile style is Mischievous Like Angelina
Angelina may be best known for her bee-stung lips, but it's her sly, sexy smile that we can't take our eyes off of. Like Angelina, you've been known to have a wilder side, and your playful ways always keep 'em guessing.
Whether you are trying to seduce a flame, tell an intriguing story, or convince a boardroom, you tend to keep your cards close to your chest. You prefer to maintain control of most situations, and keeping an air of mystery around you is the best way to do it. Don't worry, we won't tell.
who’s my celebrity soulmate?
Gio, your celebrity soul mate is someone who's Sizzling
Even if you're not Hollywood's hottest star (yet), we can tell you've got the potential to turn heads nonetheless. Whether you're in the spotlight or helping out behind the scenes, it's clear that you've got an understated allure underneath that sometimes-quiet exterior.
So who's right to play the part of your leading co-star? Only a hot ticket with sex appeal and sultry style to spare can keep up with a rising star like you. A stunner like Charlize Theron has the brains, beauty, and talent to be your match. From awards shows to dinner dates at swanky hot spots, you'll be the latest "It" couple to add sizzle to Tinseltown. Just tell your agent you're looking for someone sizzling to co-star in your love life, and you'll be sure to find them. And that's a wrap.
who am I as an american idol?
Gio, you're a Wild Card
On stage or off, people never seem to know what you'll do next. And that's the way you like it. A fan of surprises, spontaneity, and individuality, your free spirit helps keep things interesting and others guessing.
Whether you're making your own dance moves or creating a groundbreaking new look, it's clear that none of the judges will be able to pin down your impulsive energy and enthusiasm. And your style and spirit is sure to rub off on other people - especially once you're in the limelight. So keep marching to the beat of your own drummer — others are sure to follow.
who am i as a sex god?
Hark - the oracle speaks! A bolt of lightning falls from the sky! SHAZAAM! As the smoke clears, the hidden deity in you emerges and is revealed to be:
ZEUS, God of Thunder.
Like a ten-megaton bomb, you drop from the sky and into the arms of your lovers. Seduction is not just a simple game for you, it's a way of life. With your handsome looks and masculine charms, you wow the ladies until all resistance has worn away. As ruler of the gods, you like to remain in control of your relationships. From casual discussions to techniques in the bedroom, you like to call the shots. You may have many admirers, but you might tend to fall a little short on some virtues -- such as fidelity. Your mind wanders at the slightest provocation. You have been known to have several women on your mind (and in your bed) at once. But, hey, with such powerful feelings thundering inside, you need to spread your love around, right? What's certain is that once you get busy, your godly nature starts working overtime. As you perform your magic, that special someone will know exactly why they call you a true sex god.
crimson room
hahaha!!! had a patience-testing time with this test. i will just lift verbatim what has been posted from Michelle's site.
i think what really made me go on un-quitting is that SOME people have arrived to the solution and my pride won't afford me to carry on life that i haven't given this mah best shot. if others have done it, why not me, right? beside, i am an aquarian, i am supposed to get this. hahahaha!!!
CRIMSON ROOM
Dear Friends
here is an extremely difficult IQ puzzle for you to solve. only 4000 People in the whole world can figure it out so if you do escape from the room then you are a genius. there are 13 objects for you to find in order to escape from the room.details are as follows:There are 13 items hidden in this room in order to let you get out of this room. If you found:
0-6 items, your IQ is very low, total idiot
6-8 items, Low IQ, u r an idiot 9-10 items, u r normal
11-12 items, your IQ is high, above the average.
13 items found and get out of the room,
there are less than 4000 people in the world can do it.
i'm NOW officially part of the escapers list. ahehehehe.
click here to give it a try.
i think what really made me go on un-quitting is that SOME people have arrived to the solution and my pride won't afford me to carry on life that i haven't given this mah best shot. if others have done it, why not me, right? beside, i am an aquarian, i am supposed to get this. hahahaha!!!
CRIMSON ROOM
Dear Friends
here is an extremely difficult IQ puzzle for you to solve. only 4000 People in the whole world can figure it out so if you do escape from the room then you are a genius. there are 13 objects for you to find in order to escape from the room.details are as follows:There are 13 items hidden in this room in order to let you get out of this room. If you found:
0-6 items, your IQ is very low, total idiot
6-8 items, Low IQ, u r an idiot 9-10 items, u r normal
11-12 items, your IQ is high, above the average.
13 items found and get out of the room,
there are less than 4000 people in the world can do it.
i'm NOW officially part of the escapers list. ahehehehe.
click here to give it a try.
Tuesday, August 09, 2005
nothing lasts forever
i have time and again, encountered another article that espouses the common observation that no similar wealth is passed on to the third generation. what they commonly presupposes is that the 1st generation starts everything and builds the empire; the 2nd generation would of course continue building it further and being born to riches, would want power as well; and the third generation, experiencing no hardwork and responsibilities for the immense wealth and power surrounding them, would either be inclined to philantrophy or worse, and usually, squander all the riches and collapse the empire to the ground.
examples would be the Kennedys and Rockefellers of the west. chinese families have been the ones illustrated in the article here. i would have mentioned filipino families but they have mostly used up their affluence into politics. i remember my father mentioning the Laurels and Rectos of batangas as illustrative of these cases.
what i am not getting, and the constant reproach i would address my father too with his tracts of land, is that no one person can hold on to a bit of earth for 100 years. it is too selfish and too presumptuous on anybody to claim that since this piece of land has been given by our ancestors, only our bloodline has the right to keep it.
i am of course not egging all of us to sell short our lands in a moment's notice. it is that we should view such privilege and blessing as that of a steward. we make most of what there is to make such properties productive. if we are able to make our lives self-sustaining by such, it is good. if we are able to help other people become self-sustaining, it is much better.
why keep something to yourself for the rest of this earth's lifetime?
A Tradition Haunting the Third Generation Chinese
Take a stroll along Dasmariñas and Juan Luna Streets with your grandfather and he will be pointing to you the familiar landmarks. “That is the Uy Chaco Building and we had just passed the old Yutivo Building”. You will hear him reminisce about the great Chinese businessmen of the yesteryears.
The Mabasa, UyChaco, Roxas-Chua, Uy Su Bin, Uytivo, Chualimco and many more names sound puzzling and unfamiliar to you. To answer your question: “Where are their successors?” invariably the reply is “Chinese business does not pass the third generation.”
Simply put, it is said that the great wealth of Chinese businessmen do not pass on to their third generation or grandchildren. In their places, we now see the new waves of Lucio Tan, George Ty, Tony Tancaktiong, Henry Sy and John Gokongwei, among others. Is there any truth in the saying?
The old Chinese refers to the children of the rich as “the second generation princes.” Included in this leisure class was my uncle on my mother’s side. Being the sole male heir in the family, he was spoiled by everyone. After my grandfather died, he skipped his gambling debtors and escaped to China. For 40 years, he continued living lavishly by selling his father’s huge landholdings. My mother can spend hours and hours telling me stories about this leisure class squandering their fathers’ fortune on gambling, opium, and women.
But the blame is not entirely on these “poor” descendants. The old patriarchs were staunch supporters (and eager practitioners) of polygamy. Although during their younger days their strong personalities control their many wives, bickering and quarreling among the different families gradually weakened the business structure. Finally, the squabbling for inheritances ended in court suits that benefited their lawyers and business competitors. I should know because my grandfather had seven wives.
Some self-proclaimed Freudian experts claimed that this curse was due to the children’s repressed feeling of hatred against the strict and autocratic rule of the patriarch. Holding the purse string enabled the “old man” to dictate on the lives of his children and arranged-marriage was the rule – some say even to this day. Others were tired of living under the shadows of their successful forebears. Subconsciously, they seek revenge by destroying what their fathers had built.
Undoubtedly, wealth brings a luxurious but soft lifestyle to the next generation. Wealth also brings prestige and power that often gave undeserving privileges to the children. Why would a teacher discipline or flunk the children of a school’s board of trustees? Sparing the rod, many grew up thinking that they are always right and lord over their subordinates and employees.
To insure the survival of his business to the third and even later generations, an old man carefully planned with his lawyers the succession structures of his group of companies. He hired the best consultants to protect his business empire against third party’s intrusion particularly his children’s in-laws. But few years after his death, the business started to deteriorate rapidly. Behind his back and colluding with outsiders, his sons were siphoning funds from the companies.
On a more rational analysis, social, technological and economic changes were the other factors responsible in leveling the playing field of wealth distribution. As timber resources depleted, lumber magnate gave way to plywood and then to plastic manufacturer. Population growth inhibited massive sugar exports and shopping malls changed the old retailing structure. The shift in commercial centre from Binondo and Divisoria to Makati and other suburbs also shifted the fortune of many.
A single generation spans a 20-30 years period thus two generations spread over 50 to 60 years. In half a century many changes occurred. Even the fortune of a country like Japan had undergone drastic changes from pre-war, WWII and to post-war periods. Inevitably, family fortunes follow this natural course too.
Jollibee burgers took over Mamonluk’s mami; SM mega mall replaces Berg’s and many other retailers; Asian brewery threatens San Miguel; Cebu Pacific challenges Philippine Air Line; and so on. Progress cannot be stopped and innovation knows no master. Who knows? With hard work and an entrepreneurial spirit, you may be the next Lucio Tan.
examples would be the Kennedys and Rockefellers of the west. chinese families have been the ones illustrated in the article here. i would have mentioned filipino families but they have mostly used up their affluence into politics. i remember my father mentioning the Laurels and Rectos of batangas as illustrative of these cases.
what i am not getting, and the constant reproach i would address my father too with his tracts of land, is that no one person can hold on to a bit of earth for 100 years. it is too selfish and too presumptuous on anybody to claim that since this piece of land has been given by our ancestors, only our bloodline has the right to keep it.
i am of course not egging all of us to sell short our lands in a moment's notice. it is that we should view such privilege and blessing as that of a steward. we make most of what there is to make such properties productive. if we are able to make our lives self-sustaining by such, it is good. if we are able to help other people become self-sustaining, it is much better.
why keep something to yourself for the rest of this earth's lifetime?
A Tradition Haunting the Third Generation Chinese
Take a stroll along Dasmariñas and Juan Luna Streets with your grandfather and he will be pointing to you the familiar landmarks. “That is the Uy Chaco Building and we had just passed the old Yutivo Building”. You will hear him reminisce about the great Chinese businessmen of the yesteryears.
The Mabasa, UyChaco, Roxas-Chua, Uy Su Bin, Uytivo, Chualimco and many more names sound puzzling and unfamiliar to you. To answer your question: “Where are their successors?” invariably the reply is “Chinese business does not pass the third generation.”
Simply put, it is said that the great wealth of Chinese businessmen do not pass on to their third generation or grandchildren. In their places, we now see the new waves of Lucio Tan, George Ty, Tony Tancaktiong, Henry Sy and John Gokongwei, among others. Is there any truth in the saying?
The old Chinese refers to the children of the rich as “the second generation princes.” Included in this leisure class was my uncle on my mother’s side. Being the sole male heir in the family, he was spoiled by everyone. After my grandfather died, he skipped his gambling debtors and escaped to China. For 40 years, he continued living lavishly by selling his father’s huge landholdings. My mother can spend hours and hours telling me stories about this leisure class squandering their fathers’ fortune on gambling, opium, and women.
But the blame is not entirely on these “poor” descendants. The old patriarchs were staunch supporters (and eager practitioners) of polygamy. Although during their younger days their strong personalities control their many wives, bickering and quarreling among the different families gradually weakened the business structure. Finally, the squabbling for inheritances ended in court suits that benefited their lawyers and business competitors. I should know because my grandfather had seven wives.
Some self-proclaimed Freudian experts claimed that this curse was due to the children’s repressed feeling of hatred against the strict and autocratic rule of the patriarch. Holding the purse string enabled the “old man” to dictate on the lives of his children and arranged-marriage was the rule – some say even to this day. Others were tired of living under the shadows of their successful forebears. Subconsciously, they seek revenge by destroying what their fathers had built.
Undoubtedly, wealth brings a luxurious but soft lifestyle to the next generation. Wealth also brings prestige and power that often gave undeserving privileges to the children. Why would a teacher discipline or flunk the children of a school’s board of trustees? Sparing the rod, many grew up thinking that they are always right and lord over their subordinates and employees.
To insure the survival of his business to the third and even later generations, an old man carefully planned with his lawyers the succession structures of his group of companies. He hired the best consultants to protect his business empire against third party’s intrusion particularly his children’s in-laws. But few years after his death, the business started to deteriorate rapidly. Behind his back and colluding with outsiders, his sons were siphoning funds from the companies.
On a more rational analysis, social, technological and economic changes were the other factors responsible in leveling the playing field of wealth distribution. As timber resources depleted, lumber magnate gave way to plywood and then to plastic manufacturer. Population growth inhibited massive sugar exports and shopping malls changed the old retailing structure. The shift in commercial centre from Binondo and Divisoria to Makati and other suburbs also shifted the fortune of many.
A single generation spans a 20-30 years period thus two generations spread over 50 to 60 years. In half a century many changes occurred. Even the fortune of a country like Japan had undergone drastic changes from pre-war, WWII and to post-war periods. Inevitably, family fortunes follow this natural course too.
Jollibee burgers took over Mamonluk’s mami; SM mega mall replaces Berg’s and many other retailers; Asian brewery threatens San Miguel; Cebu Pacific challenges Philippine Air Line; and so on. Progress cannot be stopped and innovation knows no master. Who knows? With hard work and an entrepreneurial spirit, you may be the next Lucio Tan.
Monday, August 08, 2005
bid for your life
it is this. i have never known any such emotions existed in me before you. the images, flash in and out of my mind, never letting go. you had such power, such control. yet. i won't want to let go. for i have learned so much. i have realized so much.
that i have never loved much.
i thank you for that. i will remember you for that. i will love you forever for that.
all in.
Thursday, August 04, 2005
why me?
there are moments in life wherein we ask ourselves, "how come this is happening to me?" we often go about the question over and over finding what could be possible answers. case in point, the position i was trying to aspire for didn't happen. all along thinking i had greater chances for it considering my background and experience on the floor.
it is never easy.
more so, reading this inspirational article below. up to now, i won't be superficial in saying that i have come to terms to what has befallen me. i have not yet definitely. and reading through this, it still is hard. although, it makes perfect sense. we must not judge what happens...just let it be. for in the meantime we just have to face reality and move onwards. hopefully--expecting nothing in the future--we find the answers to all our questions in the present.
Serenity Of Knowing
Acceptance
The world is a palette of varied beauty with subtle and not-so-subtle differences in brilliance and hue. But, like all we perceive subjectively, many things can fail to meet our expectations. People don't behave as we'd wish them to, situations turn out differently than we'd imagined, and the end result is often unhappiness. The remedy is acceptance - an open-minded, understanding perception that brings the serenity of knowing every individual, situation, or difficulty is unique and valuable in some way. It is a mode of respect for differences, of seeing beyond faults or disappointments and reaching contentment.
Though acceptance necessitates recognizing and acknowledging situations or attitudes that exist in the present, it does not imply that you need also give your approval. To approve or to disapprove is to judge, but in accepting, you simply understand that all situations and all people are in a constant state of flux. Likewise, each of us is also in the process of changing and by choosing to accept ourselves (in the past, present, and future); we can truly begin to understand who we really are. Acceptance is freedom from the need to retain preconceived notions, control of others, favored outcomes, or the anxiety that can come when the unexpected occurs. It is more than tolerance, though resisting the urge to react to the choices of others is a large part of the process. Rather it is a patience and gentleness that extends outward, beginning in one's own soul and extending to other people and the world at large.
Sometimes the process works in reverse because accepting others can be easier than accepting oneself, though the latter is the inevitable result of true acceptance. In fostering acceptance, the need to judge is quelled because the belief that others ought to live up to your expectations (or 'should thinking') is eliminated because everything is evolving and deserves to do so without interference. And in letting growth happen and understanding that each person, place, thing, or situation is as it is meant to be, a blissful quiet of the mind and strong feelings of worth can be realized.
it is never easy.
more so, reading this inspirational article below. up to now, i won't be superficial in saying that i have come to terms to what has befallen me. i have not yet definitely. and reading through this, it still is hard. although, it makes perfect sense. we must not judge what happens...just let it be. for in the meantime we just have to face reality and move onwards. hopefully--expecting nothing in the future--we find the answers to all our questions in the present.
Serenity Of Knowing
Acceptance
The world is a palette of varied beauty with subtle and not-so-subtle differences in brilliance and hue. But, like all we perceive subjectively, many things can fail to meet our expectations. People don't behave as we'd wish them to, situations turn out differently than we'd imagined, and the end result is often unhappiness. The remedy is acceptance - an open-minded, understanding perception that brings the serenity of knowing every individual, situation, or difficulty is unique and valuable in some way. It is a mode of respect for differences, of seeing beyond faults or disappointments and reaching contentment.
Though acceptance necessitates recognizing and acknowledging situations or attitudes that exist in the present, it does not imply that you need also give your approval. To approve or to disapprove is to judge, but in accepting, you simply understand that all situations and all people are in a constant state of flux. Likewise, each of us is also in the process of changing and by choosing to accept ourselves (in the past, present, and future); we can truly begin to understand who we really are. Acceptance is freedom from the need to retain preconceived notions, control of others, favored outcomes, or the anxiety that can come when the unexpected occurs. It is more than tolerance, though resisting the urge to react to the choices of others is a large part of the process. Rather it is a patience and gentleness that extends outward, beginning in one's own soul and extending to other people and the world at large.
Sometimes the process works in reverse because accepting others can be easier than accepting oneself, though the latter is the inevitable result of true acceptance. In fostering acceptance, the need to judge is quelled because the belief that others ought to live up to your expectations (or 'should thinking') is eliminated because everything is evolving and deserves to do so without interference. And in letting growth happen and understanding that each person, place, thing, or situation is as it is meant to be, a blissful quiet of the mind and strong feelings of worth can be realized.
Tuesday, August 02, 2005
all in
Living Exploration
Discovering What You Want Through Experience
The road to knowing what you want is often paved with many moments of learning what you don't want. This holds true in all areas of life, from work to love. Knowing and accepting this can give us the courage to keep moving forward when we might otherwise paralyze ourselves with fear of making a wrong move.
All too often, we expect ourselves to know in advance what will or won't work. But this would be like accepting an invitation with a new dance partner only if we are sure, before dancing with them, that we will want to dance with them forever. We need to accept the invitation without knowing where it will lead us. When we accept the invitation, what we are committing to is exploration.
It helps to remember that choices and decisions are not permanent or final actions. They are just the first steps in an unfolding process of inquiry. Many people go to school for one thing and end up in a completely different career path. This does not mean that they made a mistake by studying English Literature and then becoming a nurse. One thing leads to another in ways we can't always foresee.
Try to remain open and curious all along the way, asking questions. How does this feel? How could it be better? What changes can be made to improve the situation? With each modification, you move closer to creating exactly what you want. But remember, sometimes we need to experience what we don't want to determine what we do want.
I really find this thought-provoking. In most times, we try to squander efforts and time only if we are sure that our ROI for that is considerable. We have become too conservative in exploring life that we escape great opportunities, out of fear and insecurity.
I just find it surreal that I had a nice surprise on my way to the office. It was an invitation for me to be part of a company which operates worldwide. The company president himself is asking me if I’m any bit interested. Since the job requirement would more or less fall under my compass of expertise: writing and public relations, I really am giving it some serious thinking.
This is again way off my convenient zone, but do we always don’t want to risk so much so as not to get burned?
Again, I am brought back, much as it is not a given nor is it remotely close to what I was surprised with, to the Koreanovela All In. There it was mentioned that the only fascination in life is gambling. That there would be a point in one’s life that s/he must be willing to give anything, give up everything, one’s soul, one’s love, one’s life for ONE, only one reason.
I am just taking every thoughts I have, every uncertainties, every fears and doubts inside me. I don’t want to judge any emotions, any feelings I am being subjected to right now.
If we only realize that a lot of questions in life remain unanswered even after we passed on. That we are not here to find the answers at all.
We are here for the questions.
Discovering What You Want Through Experience
The road to knowing what you want is often paved with many moments of learning what you don't want. This holds true in all areas of life, from work to love. Knowing and accepting this can give us the courage to keep moving forward when we might otherwise paralyze ourselves with fear of making a wrong move.
All too often, we expect ourselves to know in advance what will or won't work. But this would be like accepting an invitation with a new dance partner only if we are sure, before dancing with them, that we will want to dance with them forever. We need to accept the invitation without knowing where it will lead us. When we accept the invitation, what we are committing to is exploration.
It helps to remember that choices and decisions are not permanent or final actions. They are just the first steps in an unfolding process of inquiry. Many people go to school for one thing and end up in a completely different career path. This does not mean that they made a mistake by studying English Literature and then becoming a nurse. One thing leads to another in ways we can't always foresee.
Try to remain open and curious all along the way, asking questions. How does this feel? How could it be better? What changes can be made to improve the situation? With each modification, you move closer to creating exactly what you want. But remember, sometimes we need to experience what we don't want to determine what we do want.
I really find this thought-provoking. In most times, we try to squander efforts and time only if we are sure that our ROI for that is considerable. We have become too conservative in exploring life that we escape great opportunities, out of fear and insecurity.
I just find it surreal that I had a nice surprise on my way to the office. It was an invitation for me to be part of a company which operates worldwide. The company president himself is asking me if I’m any bit interested. Since the job requirement would more or less fall under my compass of expertise: writing and public relations, I really am giving it some serious thinking.
This is again way off my convenient zone, but do we always don’t want to risk so much so as not to get burned?
Again, I am brought back, much as it is not a given nor is it remotely close to what I was surprised with, to the Koreanovela All In. There it was mentioned that the only fascination in life is gambling. That there would be a point in one’s life that s/he must be willing to give anything, give up everything, one’s soul, one’s love, one’s life for ONE, only one reason.
I am just taking every thoughts I have, every uncertainties, every fears and doubts inside me. I don’t want to judge any emotions, any feelings I am being subjected to right now.
If we only realize that a lot of questions in life remain unanswered even after we passed on. That we are not here to find the answers at all.
We are here for the questions.
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