happy father's day

two of my closest friends and i went for a chow this week and had a talk about our lives for the first time. it's not weird since this was the first time we had time in our hands to, you know, talk about ourselves. we have been together for over a year now and maybe it just went that good that we found ourselves disclosing [incriminating] details about us.

i would spare the details for now, i mean, with so much respect for my 2 other buddies of course. but generally, my drift of how the talk went, and the reason for the title of this blog, is that each of us were impacted of how much our relationship with our fathers has on us.

closeness or the lack of it defined how we have viewed certain aspects of our lives. one enthused that one could have been to more places and would have been more successful had a father been more supportive of his offspring's goals and dreams.

yet, running on my mind is the thought that maybe this friend of mine is being pushed by the father to be more aggressive, to be more reliable and to be more responsible. i figured, maybe the father doesn't see much of that boldness in the person, not enough to trust to let go.

although i may be wrong. the father can also be faulted for not trying to reach out to the person to determine the fears and aspirations of his heir. sometimes, if a parent attaches much expectations, the son or daughter feels so much pressure that they end up burnt out at the end.